It's always hard going through a breakup,especially when you've loved that person with all my heart and have dreamed of the spending the rest of your life together.A friend of mine who was going through a very tough break up almost killed herself, she had cut her arm with knife by the time I ran in and stopped her...I know must people will see that has stupid but that was the solution she thought was right at that point in time, but at the end of the day she grew stronger and was happy again and is even in a better relationship....
Here are ways to survive a really bad breakup
1) Accept that the pain is normal.
As the old song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” Scientists have even shown that romantic rejection activates the same pathways in the brain that physical pain does. It hurts when you break up with someone, and it’s completely natural to feel upset about it.
Some psychologists estimate that about 98% of us have experienced some form of unrequited love, whether it’s an unreturned crush or a nasty breakup. Knowing that you’re not alone probably won’t heal your broken heart, but it could make the pain easier to bear.
2)Let it out.
Don’t pretend you’re fine. Denying or minimizing your emotions -- like telling yourself “I’m really fine” or “It’s no big deal” -- will actually make them worse in the long run. You have to process how you’re feeling so you can move past it.
Cry your eyes out if you feel like it. Crying can actually be therapeutic when you’re upset. It can reduce feelings of stress, anxiety, and anger. So go ahead, grab some tissues and wail your heart out if it helps.
3)Write about your feelings.
Expressing how you feel, rather than bottling it all up or trying to ignore it, will help you accept that you’re in pain now, but it won’t always be this way. Writing about your feelings openly and honestly can help you understand them.
The first step to coping with post-breakup loneliness is taking some time for introspection and reflection.
Take 20 minutes a day for three days to let loose and write about your deepest thoughts and feelings about this relationship. Reflect on your experience while you were in the relationship, how you feel in the aftermath of the breakup, or what your worries are now that you’re not in a relationship anymore.
4)Repeat positive self-affirmations to yourself.
Breakups can really do a number on your self-confidence. Showing yourself a little daily kindness can remind you that you are an awesome person with a lot to offer the right person. The next time negative thoughts about your breakup show up -- and they probably will, at least for a while -- challenge them with one of these helpful affirmations:
I am worth love and care, and there are people who recognize that
I’m upset right now, but it won’t last forever
Part of my pain is caused by brain chemistry, which I can’t control
My thoughts and feelings are not facts
I love and honor myself
5)Get support.
When you break up with someone, it’s natural to feel isolated or disconnected.Reaching out to friends and loved ones will help you cope with these feelings and remind you that you have plenty of love in your life.
Talk with your friends. Share your feelings with them. Ask them about their own breakup experiences. They can offer you support and advice.
If your friends offer you feedback or advice, try to be open and listen to them. You don’t have to take their advice, but accept the spirit in which it’s offered.
6)Have fun.
This may seem next to impossible, especially if you’re still raw after a breakup. However, having fun is great medicine for your brain. It reduces feelings of anger and increases your feelings of positivity. So go out with friends. See a movie. Go disco dancing. Sing karaoke. Do things you enjoy and let loose a little. You’ll feel better for it.
Laughter, it turns out, really is the best medicine. It releases endorphins, which are your body’s natural mood elevators. Laughter even increases your body’s ability to tolerate pain.
7)Have fun
This may seem next to impossible, especially if you’re still raw after a breakup. However, having fun is great medicine for your brain. It reduces feelings of anger and increases your feelings of positivity.So go out with friends. See a movie. Go disco dancing. Sing karaoke. Do things you enjoy and let loose a little. You’ll feel better for it.
Laughter, it turns out, really is the best medicine. It releases endorphins, which are your body’s natural mood elevators. Laughter even increases your body’s ability to tolerate pain.
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